To my long-lost friend – you were the brightest season in my life.
“No relationship occurs by accident, nor is what appears to be the end of the relationship a real end. Yet all who meet will someday meet again, for it is the destiny of all relationships to become holy (healed, forgiven).”
Short-Term Soulmates – How They Fulfill Our Needs
“People come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. At first, it may be hard to determine the nature and purpose of a relationship. Perhaps these descriptions will help somewhat to clarify the mystery.
When someone is in our life for a reason, it is usually to meet a need that has been expressed. They have come to assist us through a difficulty — to provide guidance and support no matter how short lived. Perhaps they’ve come along to bring us the healing power of kindness and hope. They have most definitely shown up to reactivate a virtue within us to aid us physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
They seem like a godsend and are here for the reason we need them to be. Then, without warning, usually at an inconvenient time to us, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they simply walk away. Sometimes they act out and force us to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled and therefore their work is done. The prayer you sent out has been answered and it is time now to let go. This may be a difficult time because often we think the lesson has not been learned or purpose fulfilled.
When people come into our lives for a season, it is because our turn has come to share, grow, or learn with this person. They may bring an experience of joy and truly make us laugh. They may teach us something we have never done before or even thought about doing. They are usually bringing us some form of creativity and wisdom that may unlock a beautiful gift inside that has been lying dormant. Often these mentors and instructors open our minds to new ideas and dimensions. They usually bring an enormous amount of grace with them. Take it in, believe it and enjoy — it is very real, if only for a season.
Lifetime relationships present us with life long challenges and lessons for growth. Not only do love partners fall into this category but parents, siblings and long term friendships as well. They bring us love, patience, forgiveness, generosity, compassion, etc. — those virtues we build a life upon in order to maintain emotional balance. Our job is to be open and receptive to the lesson and love the person that is bringing it. Some lifetime partners can be very gentle and some quite challenging. As a dear friend once exclaimed: “What if that person was put into your life to simply drive you crazy … after all, you did say you wanted to learn about forgiveness!”